Episode 76: FuGrrl's Got a Brand New Bzzzzz

We're exhausted -- hope we don't sound too tired.

Thanks for all the well wishes!

Nice meeting the Cunninghams. Hi to LG Fun Couple!

We'll be at the Lifestyle Lounge takeover of Desire Riviera Maya from March 4 - 11

Here we go Steelers!

Welcome to football talk with Mr and Ms Swap Fu

FuGrrl's New Toy

We're going to randomly wear the costumes we have at Desire

We discuss porn preferences. What should FuGrrl watch?

Mr Fu loves Kate Winslet

Watch Pittsburgh Dad! https://www.youtube.com/user/pittsburghdad

Guys with Super Hot wives?

People have a hard time taking compliments in the LS. Can you ask them beforehand?

Should you hire LS friends?

What's wrong with MyFace? (Our monthly Facebook rant)

We're going to Desire in March 4 - 12 for the Lifestyle Lounge takeover. Are you?

Make America Swing Again!

Episode Song is "She's Out of Her Mind" by Poway's Blink-182. We'll miss you, San Diego!

Episode 67: What's your get-down, Swinger?

Sorry this is so late. We've been busy having fun -- and working too much!

UK Swinger club attached by thugs http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3015776/Masked-gang-attacks-swingers-club-400-year-old-Tudor-mansion-forcing-semi-naked-customers-streets.html

Minnesota club barred from opening

(Distracted by our hot producer)

Tips on reddit on how to throw a meet and greet
https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/2x58s8/followup_from_throwing_our_first_swingers_meet/

Shake Weight for your kegels? https://www.elvie.com/

Implantable Vibrator from Germany? https://us.funfactory.com/en/orgasmia/

Kinky subcultures? http://www.cracked.com/photoplasty_1366_the-17-kinkiest-sexual-subcultures-around-world/

What's your get-down?

We run down all the different swinging styles our producer could come up with.

If one girl penetrates another girl is still soft swap?

(We took a week and a half off -- then picked back up.)

Did Mr. Fu break a rule?

Sybian commentary -- Still hate it

Tips on redoing our profile?

Austin pub crawl with Brian and Kristen and the Average Swingers!

Have you been kicked out of a party for a perceived infraction?

Get some Nair for a hairless sack!

Ideas for Episode 69?

Swinger Diaries? You're welcome! http://swingerdiaries.wordpress.com

Pack list! Essential for Desire

Episode music "Shut Up and Dance" by Walk the Moon

Episode 65: Don't Piss Off Veronica!

Hello Friends!

• January's was crazy! Sorry the last podcast was late.
• Oh and sorry for the audio problems in the last episode. It must be going around.
• The Black Ring makes an appearance on the Savage Lovecast #430. Check out the blog mention.
• Flirty really works for swingers too! https://www.yahoo.com/style/11-pretty-cool-things-you-didnt-know-about-106616804873.html.

Swap Fu Debrief!

• Thinking of hitting up karaoke at the club.
• Average Swinger pop in! A welcome chance to get to know an awesome couple.
• Downtown Houston pub crawl
• Our traveling companions flaked.
• Small Town couples are jittery.
• The crawl had logistical challenges but it was fun.
• Thank you thank you thank you!
• Attended a swinger couples Passion Party hosted by a swinger friend.
• A short segue about Zombie Dildos.
• Sex toys can be controlled by apps? What a country! But beware!

In depth!

• Article discussion: https://www.yahoo.com/health/should-we-all-be-in-monogamish-relationships-109895587302.html
• Is monogamy holding marriage back?
• Are they talking about swinging or poly?
• The online dating is transforming the availability of partners - Hyper Serial Monogamy,
• The difference between Tinder and Swinger Safari.
• The Nitty Gritty of Nonmonogamy
• We walk you through planning an event: Swinger Game Night,
• We reach a very "us" conclusion,
• Best laid plans -- The 3rd Tuesday in March is St. Patrick's Day
• The Mardi Gras Party is coming!
• 100 people? Holy shit! Thank god we have help this time.
• New porn setup!

Parting thoughts and Shout Outs

• FuGrrl turning Swifty!
• Thank you Mr K and the Swinger Fairy
• Thank you B and K for the Swinger Safari App -- check it out. We are. Also twitter.

Episode music -- Boogie down to "Shempi" by Ratatat on their album LP3. Love me some Ratatat on a Monday afternoon.

Episode 64: Stinky Boundary Talk

This and that...

• It's a New Year and people still celebrate Kwanzaa!
• Threesome Etiquette? Nope.
• We're talking about the FUNCH! What the fuck is a Funch? It involves a spa robe and jewelry... and a no show.
• Sound complaints. We're trying!
• We took a chance and had the Girls Uncorked couples party at our house. It was a success!
• Swinger Santa sighting!
• Swinger Zombies? Of course! Zombie Dildo?

Get to the point...

• Ms Fu and I discuss a reddit post on breaking rules. What are your rules based on? Are they trust exercises or are they based on something concrete?

Parting thoughts and feedback...

• SDC party broadcast invitation calamity! Don't use SDC with an iPad.
• Kasidie -- you're not off the hook for your GirlsUncorked.com fiasco!
• Advances in the female condom
• We share our 2015 swinger objectives
• Listener mail! Should we interview an older couple about breaking into the lifestyle
• Stick around for Stinky Sunday Sex

Relevant to our discuss on boundaries, our episode song is "The Business of Emotion (feat. White Sea)" by Big Data. Get it wherever fine music is sold.

Episode 58: A Georgia Foursome

• First off...
• Today we hit the road to Atlanta to visit our good friends, the lovely Los Swingers!
• First some sad news -- thank you very much for all the love and support
• Girls Uncorked couples party! Los Swingers need another Girls Uncorked chapter in Northeast Georgia. 
• ABC Swinger news story
• Huffpo article on what to expect at a swingers resort
• Desire was a little tame for Los Swingers -- the resort should know how to plan for the rain!
• Topics...
• Ethics follow up
• What information should you share about other couples? The condom bandit and other ethics breaches
• Listener feedback on ethics
• Matt and Bianca's reddit post as it relates to ethics
• Swingers Demolish LaGuardia!
• A good discussion on meet and greets
• Los Swingers take a questions from the producers
• What have we been up to...
• Atlanta visit
• FuGrrl get Liberated
• Paradise Valley is a true paradise! What an incredible resource and swinger friendly
• Our triumphant return to The Trap! Sexy, classy, fun in the Diamond Club. A somewhat pricey addition to the best swinger club we've ever been to.
• Food, folks and fun!
• Closing remarks...
• Join us at Naughty in N'Awlins!
• Who was that on the last Swingercast podcast?
• Los Swingers enjoyed meeting John and Allie
• The SDC website is much better: Congratulations! (Still has a couple issues...)
• Spurs win!
• Check Los Swinger website The Swingers Hub. A great, free, resource

Episode music: "Georgia On My Mind" as performed by the incomparable Willie Nelson.

Episode 57: We Get Produced!

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Episode 56: We're So This Summer

---Corrected Euless Meet and Greet Date! It's May 30 not May 31. Sorry!---

Thank you for joining us once again!

FuGrrl is loving being Girls Uncorked chapter hostess!

• The new Girl Uncorked chapter in the Texas Hill Country
• A Girls Uncorked is coming to St. Louis, courtesy of a San Antonio transplant
• For more Girl Uncorked information go to: http://www.girlsuncorked.com

Meet and Greets with Average Swingers

• Euless May 30
• Austin September 13
• Check out the Average Swingers on iTunes and at http://www.averageswingers.com

The Black Ring!

• More info: http://www.blackringrighthand.com
• Follow the Black Ring on Twitter: @blkring

Impromptu Get Togethers

• 15 couples out of nowhere? Why plan?
• Thanks to Mr. Camo from Camoandlace for helping with pool heater. All those naked boobies are in your honor!

San Antonio Players

• We're down to one club in San Antonio. Players is awesome but competition is always good.
• Come to the Kasidie meet and greet at Players San Antonio the third Friday of every month.
• More information about San Antonio Players http://www.playersclubsatx.com

Time Wasters or What Are We Going to Bitch About Today?

• The Peter and Lois maneuver: Peter tries to make plans without first talking to Lois leading to broken dates and wasted time. Listen for the solution!
• Mr. Swap Fu learns a lesson on dealing with bad instant messengers
• Using the Fade Away. Watch the Garfunkel and Oates video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fr8HKRTavM0

First Impressions

• Don't assume your lack of chemistry is due to what you think
• Give people a few chances

Swirl Party Etiquette

• No recruiting!
• Unwelcome advances during a swirl event put Ms. Swap Fu off
• Don't inadvertently out your swinger friends
• Keep swinging private and no hanky panky in front of the vanillas

Going to Naughty In N'awlins August 6 - 10 with Swingercast and Average Swingers! https://secureregistrationonline.com/new_nin/signup.php?affiliateId=1694&c=1

We miss Los Swingers! Hope you're enjoying the New Trapeze!

We're looking for a Producer! If you're interested, please email us! swapfu@gmail.com

Interested in the topic of penis size? FuGrrl recommends Unhung Hero on Netflix.

Episode Song: "The Middle" by Jimmy Eat World

Episode 55: The Fu Plus Two

Holy shit! We interviewed a couple!
The mics were out after a date so we interviewed a couple victims friends.

Pre...

• Setting expectations
• Friends First vs Fuck First
• Mr E talks about daring -- get out there!
• Ms J discusses the play benefits of separate room play at house parties
• Discussing insecurities of your partner being with someone else -- turning that into a positive
• Be willing to learn from past experiences

Post...

• Craig's List #1: The Pinky Finger Incident
• Craig's List #2: The Cheating Remedy
• Craig's List #3: Success!
• Talking up the swinger websites
• From FMF pillow talk to real life

Many thanks to Mr E and Ms J for their great interview.

Episode song is "Houdini" by the Los Angeles band Foster the People on the album Torches. Torches is a "blind buy". It's such a good album you can just buy it on faith. Pick it up!

Episode 54: Never a Place for Complacency

Endless gratitude to our listeners for sticking with us all this time!!

What's up?

• So long Club Prestige! Better to have two clubs than one.
• A vanilla New Years Eve
• Mr and Ms Swap Fu alternate off-nights at a couple events
• Feeding the community by introducing people
• There's more swingers out there than you think
• FACT Check: There are 470,000 households in San Antonio not 60,000. It is estimated that one in 200 couples swing. 23,000 swinging couples in San Antonio? Can this be?

Topic

• After four years we still need to keep communicating and be careful with what you take for granted.
• An expanding after party gets sprung on FuGrrl: Auto Stress Mode!
• We had a disconnect at a party -- when to leave? Forgot to check in. Beware of physical discomfort in uncomfortable situations.

Odds and Ends

• Should we have a Swinger Super Bowl Party? What are your sexy Super Bowl memories?
• Is it selfish not to help a couple enter the lifestyle because you don't want them around?
• Much love to SA Pervs and their excellent Black Friday Pub Crawl
• Love to T and M for the super-fun semi-lifestyle cookie exchange
• Love to Twattwirler and congrats to M on her RN!
• Love to Los Swingers! Thank you for visiting us once again!
• O5 was a raging success; triple blowjob, still unfulfilled
• Doing business with swingers... the naked network
• Girls Uncorked simply continues to rock
• Trojan Supras are terrible!

Episode song "Safe and Sound" by Capital Cities off the album In A Tidal Wave of Mystery

Episode 53: Single Swinging

What's the Fu been up to?
OktoberFUst of course! What a great party!
- We welcomed our friends from Georgia -- Looking forward to your next visit.
- Dodging vanillas
- Setting up with a little help from our friends

Meeting swingers at a bar for Beer Bingo
- A fun, low-pressure way to meet swingers

FuGrrl on Twitter on hiatus for the sake of safety

Topic
Singles in the swinging lifestyle
- Are singles swingers? What are they risking?
- Mr Swap Fu bends his brain doing some swinger math
- Ms Swap Fu changes her mind

Beware the online trolls!

Happy Halloween!

Shout Outs
- Los Swingers!
- C and S Youarebootiful!
- Doug and Holly - Host Couple on SDC
- SA Pervs
- Ms K hostess with the mostest for San Antonio Girls Uncorked
- All our awesome dates!

Links:
We quote an article from ShareYourSecrets.net
http://shareyoursecrets.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=17:faq-singles&catid=5

The voice of the single man in the LifestyleLifestyle Outloud
http://www.lifestyleoutloud.com/014-lifestyle-out-loud-a-single-mans-perspective/

First-Time fun at our OktoberFUst courtesy of Youarebootiful
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/1nuqed/our_first_swinging_experience_oktoberfest_house/

Episode Song "My Leather, My Fur, My Nails" by Stepdad on the album Wildlife Pop. Please please please get this album! So much fun!

Episode 52: My Goddamn Computer Lied to Me

Where's the Fu at?

• We went to New Orleans! Colette is the coolest. Amazing service. Uncompromising DJ. Awesome decor. Should definitely be on your must-do list. Plus we had a surprise encounter when we got there.
• A successful meet and greet with the San Antonio Pervs at the Bonham Exchange.

Odds and Ends

• The Pervy Little Social Club takes a misstep -- or how not to grow an orgy group.
• Sober Summer is drawing to a close this Sunday Funday.

Like little, boozy gems.

Topics

• Thoughts on the "Once Per Month" rule -- for newbies. Mix it up. You'll thank us later.
• Computers lie. Don't let your expectations get set too high for no good reason. What's up with no phone calls? Don't let people hide behind their computer. Get out and meet people in person.

Coming Up?
OktoberFUst und Herr Swap Fu's lederhosen

If it's wrong to love a pair of lederhosen, I don't want to be right.

Fill me up!

Shout Outs
Los Swingers' amazing Jello Shots http://www.losswingers.com/podcast
Bliss Bringers http://blissbringers.com/
The Black Ring effort http://blackringrighthand.com/
Club Colette New Orleans http://coletteclubs.com/neworleans/
San Antonio Pervs (Find them on SDC and Kasidie)

This episode's song is "Royals" by New Zealand singer-songwriter Lorde, on her debut album Pure Heroine. Check her out!

Episode 50: Making the Tough Call to Cancel

Happy Father's Day to you and Happy 50th Episode to us!

(If you like listening to Mr Swap Fu, this episode is for you.)

Check out the Swinger Subreddit for good swinger discussions:
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/
Good discussions on orgy management, threesomes vs foursomes and younger swingers woes.

Topics:
Knowing when to throw in the towel. Cancelling a date when you're feeling down for the sake of your company.
Went to the coed Girl Uncorked party! Big fun. Seeing old friends and making new ones.
http://www.girlsuncorked.com
Party too big? Hosting vs socializing and the role of alcohol in both. We discuss the dirty business of party list management.

Frigate Bird Threesome in the Galapagos Islands
Courtesy of Los Swingers

Shout Outs:
Los Swingers -- Thanks for the great photo!
Viva the Black Ring!
The Hidden Swing Podcast out of Oklahoma -- Thanks for the compliment about Ms Fu's voice!
Texas Social Club community on SDC run by Mr. K and the Swinger Fairy

Swinger Apps! Chance Mingle for iPhone and SLS for Android

Please call us. Tweet us. Email us.

Episode song by Imagine Dragons "On Top of the World" on the album Night Visions

Episode 49: Stop Annoying Your Partner

What's the Fu been up to?

• Desire trip -- borrowed partners and the soggy grapes of wrath
• Career changes and plane old problems
• An orgiastic experience. More more more.

Tonight's Topic
What does your partner do that annoys you?

• Maybe a size queen should take a turn for the team.
• Side bar about Pillow Princesses
• Why won't my wife have rough sex with me?
• Always being late is annoying your partner.
• Drop the Kabuki and get her to the playroom quicker!
• Make sure your partner is taken care of before you get busy with the other woman.

Shout outs to our fellow podcasters:  Find them on iTunes!
Los Swingers
Average Swingers
Lifestyle Outloud
Swinging Around
Less Than Vanilla

And also to our friends Mike Litoris and Ms Litoris

Welcome back to the guy with the hat!

Read the awesome Reddit Q&A with the marketing manager from Trapeze:
http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/1a5dqh/iama_swingers_club_employee_ama/

Please join us at Desire in 2014!

Episode song "The Keepers" by Santigold. The album is Master of My Make-Believe. Wow, what an extraordinary talent!

Thanks you for the awesome feedback!

Episode 48: That's not even weird.

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Episode 42: Looking Back Over the Last Two Years

Opening

1. Toronto city officials asked to license swinger's clubs? http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Canada/2012/01/16/19251646.html?cid=rssnewscanada
2. A flurry of Swinger Grindr-like apps for mobile phones. Expect more anti-competitive craziness, a la SDC and Lifestyle Longue.  Talk about the Adult Friend Finder bullshit date.
3. After so much talk about of monogam-ish relationships... where are the swingers, Mr Savage? Neglecting to consult one of the many swinger sages seems a little strange.

Topic

1. The top three changes in our perception or things we have learned in the last two years of swinging. 

Closing

1. Remember: You can post anonymous comments to our blog: http://swapfu.blogspot.com.  Respond to us there if you want people to see it.  Emails and dating sites messages are OK for private stuff, but post comments to our blog is an easy way to share with other listeners.
2. Getting the cops called on us.
3. Expanded explanation of guest list management.  Read email.
4. Upcoming Mardi Gras party: Feb 18

Not that these guys need us promoting them, but the episode song is "I Write Sin Not Tragedies" by Panic At the Disco.  Great tunes from another great Las Vegas band.

Episode 40: We're Not Experts, But We Know Some

What's the Fu been up to?

1. Co-hosting a party.  Shared responsibilities. Opportunity to meet new people.
2. Swinger friends rule because they get excited and bring drinks, snacks and toys!  They also care better care of your stuff and have fun!
3. Staying sober until 11:30 helped Mr Fu.
4. As hosts, be ready to meet people.  "Welcome to our home!"

Shout Outs:

1. Thank you for "flood" of responses to the gusher topic
1. Three doctors weighing in
2. We've got a lot of practice ahead of us
2. Younger swingers
1. They play, and
2. We've witnessed it! Thank you A and A

Plans:

1. Continue smaller get togethers
2. Gushing practice!
3. The New Years Eve dilemma

Our music for this episode is, once again, Metric.  This time the song is "Help, I'm Alive" off the album Fantasies.

Episode 37: Dating for Two or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Ms Swap Fu's Period

Pre-production notes!!
Tell us you're not a little impressed.

Thank you for your blog comments and voicemails!


Warming up the house slowly


Mas Vegas: Some more details given in context of how we don't go into details


Mindfulness: Were we in the right headspace?


Thank you Dan Savage for giving us some insight on the dating mind -- we're all newbies so -- cut yourself some slack


Mr Swap Fu is The Period Whisperer


Girls Uncorked redux


This episode's music is "Electronic Fences" by Computer Magic, a solo project based out of Brooklyn -- More information at thecomputermagic.com

Episode 35: Don't Tase me bro!

What's the Fu been up to? Ms Swap Fu gets her kink on with a guy in Lederhosen

Ms Swap Fu meets Johnny Taser
Booty call -- Buffalo Wild Wings interrupted

The Trojan Truck -- Where's the Wienermobile when you need it?

Hotel party -- Our party planned shared. Good setup

Topic
Self-improvement and the lifestyle

What can you work on? What do you do about what you can't work on?
Repetition is your best tool

The sweet gift of the emotionally mature relationship -- allowing yourself to feel big feelings without the world imploding

Announcements

Follow Fugrrl on Twitter!

Thanks for iTunes reviews

Shout out to South Carolina Lizard Sex


The music for this episode is in remembrance of the incomparable Amy Winehouse who died tragically since our last podcast. Ms Winehouse sang her way into my wife's heart to become her favorite singer. I too was fan. The song is "Back to Black" from the album of the same name. Rest in peace, sad little bird.

Episode 30: Friends first or frak first? What's a Fu to do?

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Episode 29: House Party Pro Tips... Be Safe. Be Polite. Be Fun.

News and Shout Outs:
Welcome to the swinger podcast world Sparky’s Open Source!  Bringing you swinging from a Canadian perspective
http://www.sparkysopensource.com

Planned Parenthood
http://www.plannedparenthood.org

Peoria Swinger Club Crackdown

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
https://www.ncsfreedom.org/

Non-negative news coverage of Swinging in San Antonio, from a Fox station no less
http://www.foxsanantonio.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/vid_5826.shtml

Topics:
Ask Dan and Jennifer tips for house party success:  Be safe, be polite and be fun
http://www.danandjennifer.com/

How to building sexual tension prior to a swinger house party.  Ms Swap Fu shares how she stokes the fire all day long

Fashionably late?  How late is too late to arrive to a house party?

At the party...
Reporting back on Mr Swap Fu’s communication progress
Same room issues... people have different foreplay needs.  Same room can exacerbate this.
Ms Swap Fu relaxes in her favorite way
Expanding your repertoire -- get a training partner!
Ladies, keep your heels on during sex!

Episode music in honor of Cinco de Mayo "Que No Pare" by La Super Maquina