Episode 62: Swingers vs Cheaters and Other Sticky Matters

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Episode 54: Never a Place for Complacency

Endless gratitude to our listeners for sticking with us all this time!!

What's up?

• So long Club Prestige! Better to have two clubs than one.
• A vanilla New Years Eve
• Mr and Ms Swap Fu alternate off-nights at a couple events
• Feeding the community by introducing people
• There's more swingers out there than you think
• FACT Check: There are 470,000 households in San Antonio not 60,000. It is estimated that one in 200 couples swing. 23,000 swinging couples in San Antonio? Can this be?

Topic

• After four years we still need to keep communicating and be careful with what you take for granted.
• An expanding after party gets sprung on FuGrrl: Auto Stress Mode!
• We had a disconnect at a party -- when to leave? Forgot to check in. Beware of physical discomfort in uncomfortable situations.

Odds and Ends

• Should we have a Swinger Super Bowl Party? What are your sexy Super Bowl memories?
• Is it selfish not to help a couple enter the lifestyle because you don't want them around?
• Much love to SA Pervs and their excellent Black Friday Pub Crawl
• Love to T and M for the super-fun semi-lifestyle cookie exchange
• Love to Twattwirler and congrats to M on her RN!
• Love to Los Swingers! Thank you for visiting us once again!
• O5 was a raging success; triple blowjob, still unfulfilled
• Doing business with swingers... the naked network
• Girls Uncorked simply continues to rock
• Trojan Supras are terrible!

Episode song "Safe and Sound" by Capital Cities off the album In A Tidal Wave of Mystery

Episode 53: Single Swinging

What's the Fu been up to?
OktoberFUst of course! What a great party!
- We welcomed our friends from Georgia -- Looking forward to your next visit.
- Dodging vanillas
- Setting up with a little help from our friends

Meeting swingers at a bar for Beer Bingo
- A fun, low-pressure way to meet swingers

FuGrrl on Twitter on hiatus for the sake of safety

Topic
Singles in the swinging lifestyle
- Are singles swingers? What are they risking?
- Mr Swap Fu bends his brain doing some swinger math
- Ms Swap Fu changes her mind

Beware the online trolls!

Happy Halloween!

Shout Outs
- Los Swingers!
- C and S Youarebootiful!
- Doug and Holly - Host Couple on SDC
- SA Pervs
- Ms K hostess with the mostest for San Antonio Girls Uncorked
- All our awesome dates!

Links:
We quote an article from ShareYourSecrets.net
http://shareyoursecrets.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=17:faq-singles&catid=5

The voice of the single man in the LifestyleLifestyle Outloud
http://www.lifestyleoutloud.com/014-lifestyle-out-loud-a-single-mans-perspective/

First-Time fun at our OktoberFUst courtesy of Youarebootiful
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/1nuqed/our_first_swinging_experience_oktoberfest_house/

Episode Song "My Leather, My Fur, My Nails" by Stepdad on the album Wildlife Pop. Please please please get this album! So much fun!

Episode 52: My Goddamn Computer Lied to Me

Where's the Fu at?

• We went to New Orleans! Colette is the coolest. Amazing service. Uncompromising DJ. Awesome decor. Should definitely be on your must-do list. Plus we had a surprise encounter when we got there.
• A successful meet and greet with the San Antonio Pervs at the Bonham Exchange.

Odds and Ends

• The Pervy Little Social Club takes a misstep -- or how not to grow an orgy group.
• Sober Summer is drawing to a close this Sunday Funday.

Like little, boozy gems.

Topics

• Thoughts on the "Once Per Month" rule -- for newbies. Mix it up. You'll thank us later.
• Computers lie. Don't let your expectations get set too high for no good reason. What's up with no phone calls? Don't let people hide behind their computer. Get out and meet people in person.

Coming Up?
OktoberFUst und Herr Swap Fu's lederhosen

If it's wrong to love a pair of lederhosen, I don't want to be right.

Fill me up!

Shout Outs
Los Swingers' amazing Jello Shots http://www.losswingers.com/podcast
Bliss Bringers http://blissbringers.com/
The Black Ring effort http://blackringrighthand.com/
Club Colette New Orleans http://coletteclubs.com/neworleans/
San Antonio Pervs (Find them on SDC and Kasidie)

This episode's song is "Royals" by New Zealand singer-songwriter Lorde, on her debut album Pure Heroine. Check her out!

Episode 51: A Vanity Project

What have we been up to?

• Sober summer; from solstice to labor day. Second year and going well.
• How do we swinger sober? Fake it 'til you make it!
• 4th of July at the Bonham Exchange: http://bonhamexchange.com

Topic:

• Discussion of the Vanity Fair video: http://video.vanityfair.com/watch/vanity-code-how-to-behave-at-a-swingers-party
• A discussion of the Swap Fu Swinger Event Plan
• How to escalate physically without being creepy
• Ms Swap Fu runs into a former coworker at one of our parties
• JB and Cal from Swinging Around on ice breakers, in response to listener question: http://swingin-around.blogspot.com/2013/05/episode-15-breaking-ice-for-playtime.html

Odds and Ends:

• Road trip with one stop... going to Club Colette in New Orleans, Friday, August 9. Want to join us? http://coletteclubs.com/neworleans/
• Enjoying equipment talk with other podcasters in particular the Hidden Swing: http://hiddenswing.com
• Black Ring website is up! http://blackringrighthand.com

Also mentioned:

• We weren't there but we call out BBB: http://www.bbbevent.com
• Pick-Up Artist community taking a beating -- sexism and misogyny: http://www.salon.com/2013/06/19/kickstarter_pickup_artist_on_sleeping_with_women_expect_her_to_offer_some_resistance
• Much to learn from the Pick Up Artist Community... within reason: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist
• Another funny video... Shit Swingers Say: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5v-6_6qat4

Episode music: "Pompeii" by London's Bastille off their EP Bad Blood.  Hope you like it!

Episode 50: Making the Tough Call to Cancel

Happy Father's Day to you and Happy 50th Episode to us!

(If you like listening to Mr Swap Fu, this episode is for you.)

Check out the Swinger Subreddit for good swinger discussions:
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/
Good discussions on orgy management, threesomes vs foursomes and younger swingers woes.

Topics:
Knowing when to throw in the towel. Cancelling a date when you're feeling down for the sake of your company.
Went to the coed Girl Uncorked party! Big fun. Seeing old friends and making new ones.
http://www.girlsuncorked.com
Party too big? Hosting vs socializing and the role of alcohol in both. We discuss the dirty business of party list management.

Frigate Bird Threesome in the Galapagos Islands
Courtesy of Los Swingers

Shout Outs:
Los Swingers -- Thanks for the great photo!
Viva the Black Ring!
The Hidden Swing Podcast out of Oklahoma -- Thanks for the compliment about Ms Fu's voice!
Texas Social Club community on SDC run by Mr. K and the Swinger Fairy

Swinger Apps! Chance Mingle for iPhone and SLS for Android

Please call us. Tweet us. Email us.

Episode song by Imagine Dragons "On Top of the World" on the album Night Visions

Episode 49: Stop Annoying Your Partner

What's the Fu been up to?

• Desire trip -- borrowed partners and the soggy grapes of wrath
• Career changes and plane old problems
• An orgiastic experience. More more more.

Tonight's Topic
What does your partner do that annoys you?

• Maybe a size queen should take a turn for the team.
• Side bar about Pillow Princesses
• Why won't my wife have rough sex with me?
• Always being late is annoying your partner.
• Drop the Kabuki and get her to the playroom quicker!
• Make sure your partner is taken care of before you get busy with the other woman.

Shout outs to our fellow podcasters:  Find them on iTunes!
Los Swingers
Average Swingers
Lifestyle Outloud
Swinging Around
Less Than Vanilla

And also to our friends Mike Litoris and Ms Litoris

Welcome back to the guy with the hat!

Read the awesome Reddit Q&A with the marketing manager from Trapeze:
http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/1a5dqh/iama_swingers_club_employee_ama/

Please join us at Desire in 2014!

Episode song "The Keepers" by Santigold. The album is Master of My Make-Believe. Wow, what an extraordinary talent!

Thanks you for the awesome feedback!

Episode 48: That's not even weird.

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Episode 44: We Went to the Beach!

A 10 minutes topic turns into a freefrom, hour-long conversation about our recent trip to Desire Resort and Spa in the Mayan Riviera with the Swingercast group.

Observations and tips

There weren't many tan lines at Desire, so we decided to bring you this song by the band Tanlines from Brooklyn.  The song is called "All of Me" off the album Mixed Emotions.

Episode 42: Looking Back Over the Last Two Years

Opening

1. Toronto city officials asked to license swinger's clubs? http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Canada/2012/01/16/19251646.html?cid=rssnewscanada
2. A flurry of Swinger Grindr-like apps for mobile phones. Expect more anti-competitive craziness, a la SDC and Lifestyle Longue.  Talk about the Adult Friend Finder bullshit date.
3. After so much talk about of monogam-ish relationships... where are the swingers, Mr Savage? Neglecting to consult one of the many swinger sages seems a little strange.

Topic

1. The top three changes in our perception or things we have learned in the last two years of swinging. 

Closing

1. Remember: You can post anonymous comments to our blog: http://swapfu.blogspot.com.  Respond to us there if you want people to see it.  Emails and dating sites messages are OK for private stuff, but post comments to our blog is an easy way to share with other listeners.
2. Getting the cops called on us.
3. Expanded explanation of guest list management.  Read email.
4. Upcoming Mardi Gras party: Feb 18

Not that these guys need us promoting them, but the episode song is "I Write Sin Not Tragedies" by Panic At the Disco.  Great tunes from another great Las Vegas band.

Episode 39: Female Ejaculation -- Female Empowerment or Just a Clumsy Clinical Term

Hang in there for fun! -- Photo courtesy of Cliff and Jaime

What did the Fu do?

1. Full Moon Party
2. Photo shoot: The beauty and the... where did he go?
3. Thanksgiving vs Friends Giving vs Black Friday
4. Enjoying having friends over
5. Guy with the hat update
6. We had an anniversary.  Thank you for the well wishes

Topic

1. Ms Swap Fu wants to learn more about female ejaculation
2. Squirting? Prevalence squirting101.com

Shout Out

Safety first! -- Photo courtesy of Cliff and Jaime

1. Sex swing camouflage pictures! Thank you Cliff and Jaime for the awesome photos.
2. The Fu loves "The League" watch it on Netflix
3. Blog comment regarding younger swingers and whether or not they ever get down to business.  They did at 4 AM after the pub crawl
4. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
5. Support Planned Parenthood this holiday season!

I can't believe it's taken us this long to feature a song by Future Islands! We've been listening to this band pretty much non-stop for the last few months. This episode's song is "Walking Through that Door" on the album In Evening Air. Learn more about this excellent band at myspace.com/futureislands

Episode 38: What's Been Bugging the Fu's

Shout outs to long haul truckers, Australian travelers and  http://caramelcraze.com/ (Great website!!)

What's been bugging the Fu's?

Learning to embrace age differences

Different Swinging Styles

And being in the moment... (Thank you Doris!)

Also... Halloween Party recap!

We're going to the Moon Party at Pace Bend Park... come join us!!

Episode Music "Never Saw the Point" by Cults.  Awesome music. :)

Sorry for our audio problems... damn USB mics are giving me fits on my slow laptop.

Episode 37: Dating for Two or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Ms Swap Fu's Period

Pre-production notes!!
Tell us you're not a little impressed.

Thank you for your blog comments and voicemails!


Warming up the house slowly


Mas Vegas: Some more details given in context of how we don't go into details


Mindfulness: Were we in the right headspace?


Thank you Dan Savage for giving us some insight on the dating mind -- we're all newbies so -- cut yourself some slack


Mr Swap Fu is The Period Whisperer


Girls Uncorked redux


This episode's music is "Electronic Fences" by Computer Magic, a solo project based out of Brooklyn -- More information at thecomputermagic.com

Episode 36: Don't call it a cumback!

We're finally moved into the new place... mostly.  We're back!

Ms Swap Fu gets Uncorked.  Join the Girls Uncorked chapter in your city.
Las Vegas trip highlights and tips and tricks for swinger travel newbies
The Sex-Related Injury
We talk about staying active in the lifestyle during a life transition
FuGrrl wants to know how you gracefully exit a sexual situation that just got weird... email her FuGrrl@gmail.com

Thank you for the your patience, emails and iTunes reviews.  Hopefully we're back on schedule now.

Enjoy this episode's hot, hot music "Come Closer" by Miles Kane

Follow @SwapFu and @FuGrrl on Twitter

Episode 31: Don't assume you're both on the same page. Teaching swingers to take a break before the sex.

Shout outs

1. Positive reviews on iTunes. Keep them coming, they help us share the podcast with other swingers and wanna be swingers.
2. Always, thank you to our awesome listeners and twitter followers

Fu News

1. Naked Condom’s $56 dozen.  Naked Foundation
2. Wii Dare you to buy this game. More info

Topic
Related to Friends First, Fuck First.  Is it a Part II?:
Thank you to the listeners for supplying topic.  How to touch base in the middle of the date to pull the handbrake, or on the positive, let your partner know you want to escalate.

1. Make a Plan and a Plan B
2. Make a communication plan, set a time
1. At club
1. Say hi to friend
2. Talk to DJ, bartender
2. At date
1. Text your partner from bathroom
2. Leg squeeze
3. Make it clear that you do not necessarily play on the first date
4. Limit pre-date conversation: Front-loading date too much

Where are we going?

1. River Trip June 24 - 26

WE LOVE OUR LISTENERS!!

We are featuring the song "Breathe" by Telepopmusik as the episode song because we took a short breather away from the podcast to rethink a few things regarding how we were producing it. Yes, this was Version 2 of this recording... Version 1 ran off the rails and we decided to give it another shot after a soggy but fun Memorial Day weekend in Chicago. Telepopmusik is an amazing band from France. Yes! France! We love that enigmatic country. Check them out here. If you like them, please buy their album, like we did. :)

Episode 30: Friends first or frak first? What's a Fu to do?

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Episode 29: House Party Pro Tips... Be Safe. Be Polite. Be Fun.

News and Shout Outs:
Welcome to the swinger podcast world Sparky’s Open Source!  Bringing you swinging from a Canadian perspective
http://www.sparkysopensource.com

Planned Parenthood
http://www.plannedparenthood.org

Peoria Swinger Club Crackdown

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
https://www.ncsfreedom.org/

Non-negative news coverage of Swinging in San Antonio, from a Fox station no less
http://www.foxsanantonio.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/vid_5826.shtml

Topics:
Ask Dan and Jennifer tips for house party success:  Be safe, be polite and be fun
http://www.danandjennifer.com/

How to building sexual tension prior to a swinger house party.  Ms Swap Fu shares how she stokes the fire all day long

Fashionably late?  How late is too late to arrive to a house party?

At the party...
Reporting back on Mr Swap Fu’s communication progress
Same room issues... people have different foreplay needs.  Same room can exacerbate this.
Ms Swap Fu relaxes in her favorite way
Expanding your repertoire -- get a training partner!
Ladies, keep your heels on during sex!

Episode music in honor of Cinco de Mayo "Que No Pare" by La Super Maquina

Episode 26: Swingers Never Stand Still

Why do swingers travel so much??

We discuss our recent trip to Fort Worth to meet our fellow Texan podcasters Boris and Doris.  Check them out!
http://bndpodcast.com/

Mr Swap Fu meets listeners in Las Vegas, inciting an interesting conversation about vanillas dropping swinger hints.

A listener question helps us further discuss transitioning a swinger play relationship to non-play.  We conclude... nothing. lol

Join us for the Guadalupe River Trip the weekend of June 25.  More information here: http://www.kreweofswingtown.com/river.html

Episode Music "Young Folks" by Peter, Bjorn and John

Apologies for Mr Swap Fu's audio problems... never to be repeated. ;)

Episode 25: The Fu's Enjoy Some Hot, Wet, Sticky Success

Short notes...

We've been having a lot of fun lately.  We run down the last couple weeks of swinging success.
Shout outs to fellow Texan swinger podcasters LifeStyleLife and Boris & Doris, check them out at:
LifeStyleLife
Boris & Doris

We talk about double blow jobs and a very hot hotel hook up... more to come??

Episode Music in honor of St Patrick's Day "Sayonara" by The Pogues

Episode 24: Two Swingers Realign or The Boobie Game Examined

Swap Fu would like to thank all our loyal listeners!  Tell your swinger friends about us and please give us positive feedback on iTunes if you have a second.  It takes no time, really.

1. Mr Swap Fu is a Texas Nerd, so we talk about BBQ Tech
2. Praise to the informed Swingers out there
3. Swinger dating sites are an under-utilized resource
4. The swinger dating sites need better travel discussion modules
5. Will Swap Fu ever speak at a swinger takeover event?
6. Will Swap Fu ever GO to a swinger takeover?
7. Making time for our vanilla friends
8. The Return to the "Other Club".  How did it go?
9. The Fu's discuss the Boobie Game and propose a theory about why it exists.
10. Did we tell you always have to have Plan B?

It's our last episode before Mardi Gras!  Episode music, "Here to Stay" by the Rebirth Brass Band