Episode 79: Penis Pills and Other Thrills

We recorded this episode in two takes. We had to stop recording the first take because we got in an argument. Oh well. I was also really congested during the first take. Sorry about that.

Semi-live from Vancouver BC.
FuGrrl is tired and hungry.
New mic stands. Can you tell the difference?
What's the Weather? Pot smoke!
FuGrrl's Canada prejudices get dashed.
Sending some love to our Vancouver listeners.
Sorry. The podcast came out after we went to Seattle. We will meet you another time.

Continued on April 3
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Sexual Performance Anxiety
Realizing MrFu's performance anxiety kept us from participating in many swinger events.
MrFu struggles with this issue. Maybe my experience will help some folks feel like they are less alone.
Self-acceptance vs self-improvement.

Been here in BC for more than a month and still haven't had any pot. We've got shit to do.

Going to the Whistler LS Takeover! May 2 - 5. Join us!

The music for this episode is Vancouver's own Bear Mountain's cover of Everybody Wants to Rule the World

Episode 72: Swinging is the New Normal

You want notes? Here's your damn notes!

• We're getting older -- but glasses? Really?
• FuGrrl plugs her ladies-only kik group
• Google image search your private photos to make sure people can't find your vanilla profiles
• Traveling for swinger events in beach towns
• Going to Pittsburgh for the Cowboys-Steelers
• Birthday Pub Crawl! The night before a Longhorns game means -- tons of drunks!
• Happy Birthday John from Swingercast
• DNA testing? Turns out were swingers. Who knew?
• Renewed interest in the Black Ring -- Cheap shit from China!
• Swinging is our new normal
• More comments on misbehaving vanillas -- people are the spectrum
• A wife asks a man how he thinks they stack up against others couples -- that's not swinging, that's Facebook
• Tips for breaking up with people in the lifestyle: https://bedsider.org/features/855-you-and-your-ex-how-to-deal-after-the-breakup and we have our own take as well
• Interviewing people is tricky
• Proposed Q and A: Newbie and Experienced couples
• SA Perv's meet and greet this Saturday and  SA Perv's Black Friday pub crawl! (Check SDC and Kasidie)
• OktoberFUst 2016 is coming!
• Listen to us mix drinks! Tweaking the setup for fewer edits!

Episode Song is "Cover Me Up" by Pittsburgh stalwarts Rusted Root. (No I didn't want to play the *other* song. You're welcome.)

Episode 64: Stinky Boundary Talk

This and that...

• It's a New Year and people still celebrate Kwanzaa!
• Threesome Etiquette? Nope.
• We're talking about the FUNCH! What the fuck is a Funch? It involves a spa robe and jewelry... and a no show.
• Sound complaints. We're trying!
• We took a chance and had the Girls Uncorked couples party at our house. It was a success!
• Swinger Santa sighting!
• Swinger Zombies? Of course! Zombie Dildo?

Get to the point...

• Ms Fu and I discuss a reddit post on breaking rules. What are your rules based on? Are they trust exercises or are they based on something concrete?

Parting thoughts and feedback...

• SDC party broadcast invitation calamity! Don't use SDC with an iPad.
• Kasidie -- you're not off the hook for your GirlsUncorked.com fiasco!
• Advances in the female condom
• We share our 2015 swinger objectives
• Listener mail! Should we interview an older couple about breaking into the lifestyle
• Stick around for Stinky Sunday Sex

Relevant to our discuss on boundaries, our episode song is "The Business of Emotion (feat. White Sea)" by Big Data. Get it wherever fine music is sold.

Episode 62: Swingers vs Cheaters and Other Sticky Matters

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Episode 61: Getting Your Dinky in a Pickle

Quick note...

Sorry this is a little late -- we recorded on 10/10/2014 but I've been super busy.

Also, we repeatedly refer to the episode song as Fine Shine by The Period Ring -- it's Fineshrine by Purity Ring. We're goofy, we know.

What’s the Fu been up to?

Above average pub crawling with the Average Swingers

Pre-Crawl Pizza at Home Slice

Violet Crown Social Club

Shangri La

Easy Tiger Bakery

The Rooftop

Coyote Ugly

San Diego Trivia adventure with amazing people

Talking to a couple that started swinging partly because of the podcast

OktoberFUst Prep -- Lederhosen Woes

Topic

We revisit the Lost Episode 23 from way back in 2011

Still no podcasts from Australia? What's happening there?

Planned Parenthood update? The news ain't good in Texas

Swinger cover stories -- How do you handle a thousand cocks? Put em in a calendar? We need a cock release.

Blind dates vs blurry dates

Single people! Please speak up!
The once per month rule and other ways to keep it cool in your swinger life

Parting Thoughts and Feedback

SLS Radio Request: Our debate -- Is it an endorsement

Episode Music selection discussion:  Democracy or Dictatorship?

News Items: Careful Swingers. Any of your misdeeds are blamed on the Swinging Lifestyle.

1. Christian swingers story going strong
2. Bad renters
3. Bad AirBnB'ers
4. Three people shot outside a Swing Club. Except they weren't at the swinger club

Shout outs

Pub Crawl People!

Support Planned Parenthood!

Episode music "Fineshrine" by Purity Ring (Not Fineshine by The Period Ring... super sorry.) Selected by FuGrrl

Episode 59: Do You Hear That Clique-ing Noise?

What's up? Well...

• Thank you Los Swingers for hospitality once again!
• Tost rocked it out for FuGrrl's birthday! Full circle and then some.

In the news...

• Herman Munster Gets Rapey: http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/man-dressed-herman-munster-raped-3934576 (Will selfies replace mug shots?)
• 15 Celebrities Swingers: http://madamenoire.com/453365/15-celebrity-swingers/
• Sex Facts!: http://www.yourtango.com/2014220165/7-absolutely-insane-sex-facts-around-world?utm_source=huffingtonpost.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange

Keep moving!

• Traveling to La Jolla for work and fun! Do yourself a favor and hit up Babycakes for Sunday Funday! http://www.babycakessandiego.com/babys-bar/church Sundays in San Diego are a goddamn party!
• Hi 79couple! Thanks for the amazing time! Check out there fun meet and greets.
• That song Fancy's got a fuck beat to it. More than The Rentals? Barry White is out. Marvin Gaye? No way. Six Underground by Sneakers Pimps.

Topix

• The Sizeist vs FuGrrl: Swinger Superhero
• What do people really look like in the Lifestyle? Thank you Jaye for the topic. What's hot? Is it just looks?
• Social is not a social service. People have the right to choose. Choose what's hot to you and be hot back.
• Then things get cliquey! Are you in a clique? Because you're being tough on newbies.
• Mr Swap Fu goes on a loony rant and weirds out FuGrrl

Parting thoughts

• Flirt? Meh.
• Get Tested!!
• Meet us, the Average Swingers and the Hidden Swing in Austin! Details on Kasidie.
• We want donuts!
• Naughty in N'Awlins! Red dresses. Red dresses everywhere!

Shout outs!

• Thanks for the awesome iTunes reviews
• Happy Dirty 30 Anniversary to Ms T and Mr K -- Join their Texas Social Club
• Question: Are there enough meeting and greets happening?

Song? Clique by Kayne. Yeah, that's right.

Episode 53: Single Swinging

What's the Fu been up to?
OktoberFUst of course! What a great party!
- We welcomed our friends from Georgia -- Looking forward to your next visit.
- Dodging vanillas
- Setting up with a little help from our friends

Meeting swingers at a bar for Beer Bingo
- A fun, low-pressure way to meet swingers

FuGrrl on Twitter on hiatus for the sake of safety

Topic
Singles in the swinging lifestyle
- Are singles swingers? What are they risking?
- Mr Swap Fu bends his brain doing some swinger math
- Ms Swap Fu changes her mind

Beware the online trolls!

Happy Halloween!

Shout Outs
- Los Swingers!
- C and S Youarebootiful!
- Doug and Holly - Host Couple on SDC
- SA Pervs
- Ms K hostess with the mostest for San Antonio Girls Uncorked
- All our awesome dates!

Links:
We quote an article from ShareYourSecrets.net
http://shareyoursecrets.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=17:faq-singles&catid=5

The voice of the single man in the LifestyleLifestyle Outloud
http://www.lifestyleoutloud.com/014-lifestyle-out-loud-a-single-mans-perspective/

First-Time fun at our OktoberFUst courtesy of Youarebootiful
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/1nuqed/our_first_swinging_experience_oktoberfest_house/

Episode Song "My Leather, My Fur, My Nails" by Stepdad on the album Wildlife Pop. Please please please get this album! So much fun!

Episode 50: Making the Tough Call to Cancel

Happy Father's Day to you and Happy 50th Episode to us!

(If you like listening to Mr Swap Fu, this episode is for you.)

Check out the Swinger Subreddit for good swinger discussions:
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/
Good discussions on orgy management, threesomes vs foursomes and younger swingers woes.

Topics:
Knowing when to throw in the towel. Cancelling a date when you're feeling down for the sake of your company.
Went to the coed Girl Uncorked party! Big fun. Seeing old friends and making new ones.
http://www.girlsuncorked.com
Party too big? Hosting vs socializing and the role of alcohol in both. We discuss the dirty business of party list management.

Frigate Bird Threesome in the Galapagos Islands
Courtesy of Los Swingers

Shout Outs:
Los Swingers -- Thanks for the great photo!
Viva the Black Ring!
The Hidden Swing Podcast out of Oklahoma -- Thanks for the compliment about Ms Fu's voice!
Texas Social Club community on SDC run by Mr. K and the Swinger Fairy

Swinger Apps! Chance Mingle for iPhone and SLS for Android

Please call us. Tweet us. Email us.

Episode song by Imagine Dragons "On Top of the World" on the album Night Visions

Episode 37: Dating for Two or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Ms Swap Fu's Period

Pre-production notes!!
Tell us you're not a little impressed.

Thank you for your blog comments and voicemails!


Warming up the house slowly


Mas Vegas: Some more details given in context of how we don't go into details


Mindfulness: Were we in the right headspace?


Thank you Dan Savage for giving us some insight on the dating mind -- we're all newbies so -- cut yourself some slack


Mr Swap Fu is The Period Whisperer


Girls Uncorked redux


This episode's music is "Electronic Fences" by Computer Magic, a solo project based out of Brooklyn -- More information at thecomputermagic.com

Episode 35: Don't Tase me bro!

What's the Fu been up to? Ms Swap Fu gets her kink on with a guy in Lederhosen

Ms Swap Fu meets Johnny Taser
Booty call -- Buffalo Wild Wings interrupted

The Trojan Truck -- Where's the Wienermobile when you need it?

Hotel party -- Our party planned shared. Good setup

Topic
Self-improvement and the lifestyle

What can you work on? What do you do about what you can't work on?
Repetition is your best tool

The sweet gift of the emotionally mature relationship -- allowing yourself to feel big feelings without the world imploding

Announcements

Follow Fugrrl on Twitter!

Thanks for iTunes reviews

Shout out to South Carolina Lizard Sex


The music for this episode is in remembrance of the incomparable Amy Winehouse who died tragically since our last podcast. Ms Winehouse sang her way into my wife's heart to become her favorite singer. I too was fan. The song is "Back to Black" from the album of the same name. Rest in peace, sad little bird.

Episode 31: Don't assume you're both on the same page. Teaching swingers to take a break before the sex.

Shout outs

1. Positive reviews on iTunes. Keep them coming, they help us share the podcast with other swingers and wanna be swingers.
2. Always, thank you to our awesome listeners and twitter followers

Fu News

1. Naked Condom’s $56 dozen.  Naked Foundation
2. Wii Dare you to buy this game. More info

Topic
Related to Friends First, Fuck First.  Is it a Part II?:
Thank you to the listeners for supplying topic.  How to touch base in the middle of the date to pull the handbrake, or on the positive, let your partner know you want to escalate.

1. Make a Plan and a Plan B
2. Make a communication plan, set a time
1. At club
1. Say hi to friend
2. Talk to DJ, bartender
2. At date
1. Text your partner from bathroom
2. Leg squeeze
3. Make it clear that you do not necessarily play on the first date
4. Limit pre-date conversation: Front-loading date too much

Where are we going?

1. River Trip June 24 - 26

WE LOVE OUR LISTENERS!!

We are featuring the song "Breathe" by Telepopmusik as the episode song because we took a short breather away from the podcast to rethink a few things regarding how we were producing it. Yes, this was Version 2 of this recording... Version 1 ran off the rails and we decided to give it another shot after a soggy but fun Memorial Day weekend in Chicago. Telepopmusik is an amazing band from France. Yes! France! We love that enigmatic country. Check them out here. If you like them, please buy their album, like we did. :)

Episode 26: Swingers Never Stand Still

Why do swingers travel so much??

We discuss our recent trip to Fort Worth to meet our fellow Texan podcasters Boris and Doris.  Check them out!
http://bndpodcast.com/

Mr Swap Fu meets listeners in Las Vegas, inciting an interesting conversation about vanillas dropping swinger hints.

A listener question helps us further discuss transitioning a swinger play relationship to non-play.  We conclude... nothing. lol

Join us for the Guadalupe River Trip the weekend of June 25.  More information here: http://www.kreweofswingtown.com/river.html

Episode Music "Young Folks" by Peter, Bjorn and John

Apologies for Mr Swap Fu's audio problems... never to be repeated. ;)