Episode 56: We're So This Summer

---Corrected Euless Meet and Greet Date! It's May 30 not May 31. Sorry!---

Thank you for joining us once again!

FuGrrl is loving being Girls Uncorked chapter hostess!

• The new Girl Uncorked chapter in the Texas Hill Country
• A Girls Uncorked is coming to St. Louis, courtesy of a San Antonio transplant
• For more Girl Uncorked information go to: http://www.girlsuncorked.com

Meet and Greets with Average Swingers

• Euless May 30
• Austin September 13
• Check out the Average Swingers on iTunes and at http://www.averageswingers.com

The Black Ring!

• More info: http://www.blackringrighthand.com
• Follow the Black Ring on Twitter: @blkring

Impromptu Get Togethers

• 15 couples out of nowhere? Why plan?
• Thanks to Mr. Camo from Camoandlace for helping with pool heater. All those naked boobies are in your honor!

San Antonio Players

• We're down to one club in San Antonio. Players is awesome but competition is always good.
• Come to the Kasidie meet and greet at Players San Antonio the third Friday of every month.
• More information about San Antonio Players http://www.playersclubsatx.com

Time Wasters or What Are We Going to Bitch About Today?

• The Peter and Lois maneuver: Peter tries to make plans without first talking to Lois leading to broken dates and wasted time. Listen for the solution!
• Mr. Swap Fu learns a lesson on dealing with bad instant messengers
• Using the Fade Away. Watch the Garfunkel and Oates video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fr8HKRTavM0

First Impressions

• Don't assume your lack of chemistry is due to what you think
• Give people a few chances

Swirl Party Etiquette

• No recruiting!
• Unwelcome advances during a swirl event put Ms. Swap Fu off
• Don't inadvertently out your swinger friends
• Keep swinging private and no hanky panky in front of the vanillas

Going to Naughty In N'awlins August 6 - 10 with Swingercast and Average Swingers! https://secureregistrationonline.com/new_nin/signup.php?affiliateId=1694&c=1

We miss Los Swingers! Hope you're enjoying the New Trapeze!

We're looking for a Producer! If you're interested, please email us! swapfu@gmail.com

Interested in the topic of penis size? FuGrrl recommends Unhung Hero on Netflix.

Episode Song: "The Middle" by Jimmy Eat World

Episode 55: The Fu Plus Two

Holy shit! We interviewed a couple!
The mics were out after a date so we interviewed a couple victims friends.

Pre...

• Setting expectations
• Friends First vs Fuck First
• Mr E talks about daring -- get out there!
• Ms J discusses the play benefits of separate room play at house parties
• Discussing insecurities of your partner being with someone else -- turning that into a positive
• Be willing to learn from past experiences

Post...

• Craig's List #1: The Pinky Finger Incident
• Craig's List #2: The Cheating Remedy
• Craig's List #3: Success!
• Talking up the swinger websites
• From FMF pillow talk to real life

Many thanks to Mr E and Ms J for their great interview.

Episode song is "Houdini" by the Los Angeles band Foster the People on the album Torches. Torches is a "blind buy". It's such a good album you can just buy it on faith. Pick it up!

Episode 54: Never a Place for Complacency

Endless gratitude to our listeners for sticking with us all this time!!

What's up?

• So long Club Prestige! Better to have two clubs than one.
• A vanilla New Years Eve
• Mr and Ms Swap Fu alternate off-nights at a couple events
• Feeding the community by introducing people
• There's more swingers out there than you think
• FACT Check: There are 470,000 households in San Antonio not 60,000. It is estimated that one in 200 couples swing. 23,000 swinging couples in San Antonio? Can this be?

Topic

• After four years we still need to keep communicating and be careful with what you take for granted.
• An expanding after party gets sprung on FuGrrl: Auto Stress Mode!
• We had a disconnect at a party -- when to leave? Forgot to check in. Beware of physical discomfort in uncomfortable situations.

Odds and Ends

• Should we have a Swinger Super Bowl Party? What are your sexy Super Bowl memories?
• Is it selfish not to help a couple enter the lifestyle because you don't want them around?
• Much love to SA Pervs and their excellent Black Friday Pub Crawl
• Love to T and M for the super-fun semi-lifestyle cookie exchange
• Love to Twattwirler and congrats to M on her RN!
• Love to Los Swingers! Thank you for visiting us once again!
• O5 was a raging success; triple blowjob, still unfulfilled
• Doing business with swingers... the naked network
• Girls Uncorked simply continues to rock
• Trojan Supras are terrible!

Episode song "Safe and Sound" by Capital Cities off the album In A Tidal Wave of Mystery

Episode 53: Single Swinging

What's the Fu been up to?
OktoberFUst of course! What a great party!
- We welcomed our friends from Georgia -- Looking forward to your next visit.
- Dodging vanillas
- Setting up with a little help from our friends

Meeting swingers at a bar for Beer Bingo
- A fun, low-pressure way to meet swingers

FuGrrl on Twitter on hiatus for the sake of safety

Topic
Singles in the swinging lifestyle
- Are singles swingers? What are they risking?
- Mr Swap Fu bends his brain doing some swinger math
- Ms Swap Fu changes her mind

Beware the online trolls!

Happy Halloween!

Shout Outs
- Los Swingers!
- C and S Youarebootiful!
- Doug and Holly - Host Couple on SDC
- SA Pervs
- Ms K hostess with the mostest for San Antonio Girls Uncorked
- All our awesome dates!

Links:
We quote an article from ShareYourSecrets.net
http://shareyoursecrets.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=17:faq-singles&catid=5

The voice of the single man in the LifestyleLifestyle Outloud
http://www.lifestyleoutloud.com/014-lifestyle-out-loud-a-single-mans-perspective/

First-Time fun at our OktoberFUst courtesy of Youarebootiful
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/1nuqed/our_first_swinging_experience_oktoberfest_house/

Episode Song "My Leather, My Fur, My Nails" by Stepdad on the album Wildlife Pop. Please please please get this album! So much fun!

Episode 52: My Goddamn Computer Lied to Me

Where's the Fu at?

• We went to New Orleans! Colette is the coolest. Amazing service. Uncompromising DJ. Awesome decor. Should definitely be on your must-do list. Plus we had a surprise encounter when we got there.
• A successful meet and greet with the San Antonio Pervs at the Bonham Exchange.

Odds and Ends

• The Pervy Little Social Club takes a misstep -- or how not to grow an orgy group.
• Sober Summer is drawing to a close this Sunday Funday.

Like little, boozy gems.

Topics

• Thoughts on the "Once Per Month" rule -- for newbies. Mix it up. You'll thank us later.
• Computers lie. Don't let your expectations get set too high for no good reason. What's up with no phone calls? Don't let people hide behind their computer. Get out and meet people in person.

Coming Up?
OktoberFUst und Herr Swap Fu's lederhosen

If it's wrong to love a pair of lederhosen, I don't want to be right.

Fill me up!

Shout Outs
Los Swingers' amazing Jello Shots http://www.losswingers.com/podcast
Bliss Bringers http://blissbringers.com/
The Black Ring effort http://blackringrighthand.com/
Club Colette New Orleans http://coletteclubs.com/neworleans/
San Antonio Pervs (Find them on SDC and Kasidie)

This episode's song is "Royals" by New Zealand singer-songwriter Lorde, on her debut album Pure Heroine. Check her out!

Episode 51: A Vanity Project

What have we been up to?

• Sober summer; from solstice to labor day. Second year and going well.
• How do we swinger sober? Fake it 'til you make it!
• 4th of July at the Bonham Exchange: http://bonhamexchange.com

Topic:

• Discussion of the Vanity Fair video: http://video.vanityfair.com/watch/vanity-code-how-to-behave-at-a-swingers-party
• A discussion of the Swap Fu Swinger Event Plan
• How to escalate physically without being creepy
• Ms Swap Fu runs into a former coworker at one of our parties
• JB and Cal from Swinging Around on ice breakers, in response to listener question: http://swingin-around.blogspot.com/2013/05/episode-15-breaking-ice-for-playtime.html

Odds and Ends:

• Road trip with one stop... going to Club Colette in New Orleans, Friday, August 9. Want to join us? http://coletteclubs.com/neworleans/
• Enjoying equipment talk with other podcasters in particular the Hidden Swing: http://hiddenswing.com
• Black Ring website is up! http://blackringrighthand.com

Also mentioned:

• We weren't there but we call out BBB: http://www.bbbevent.com
• Pick-Up Artist community taking a beating -- sexism and misogyny: http://www.salon.com/2013/06/19/kickstarter_pickup_artist_on_sleeping_with_women_expect_her_to_offer_some_resistance
• Much to learn from the Pick Up Artist Community... within reason: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist
• Another funny video... Shit Swingers Say: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5v-6_6qat4

Episode music: "Pompeii" by London's Bastille off their EP Bad Blood.  Hope you like it!

Episode 50: Making the Tough Call to Cancel

Happy Father's Day to you and Happy 50th Episode to us!

(If you like listening to Mr Swap Fu, this episode is for you.)

Check out the Swinger Subreddit for good swinger discussions:
http://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/
Good discussions on orgy management, threesomes vs foursomes and younger swingers woes.

Topics:
Knowing when to throw in the towel. Cancelling a date when you're feeling down for the sake of your company.
Went to the coed Girl Uncorked party! Big fun. Seeing old friends and making new ones.
http://www.girlsuncorked.com
Party too big? Hosting vs socializing and the role of alcohol in both. We discuss the dirty business of party list management.

Frigate Bird Threesome in the Galapagos Islands
Courtesy of Los Swingers

Shout Outs:
Los Swingers -- Thanks for the great photo!
Viva the Black Ring!
The Hidden Swing Podcast out of Oklahoma -- Thanks for the compliment about Ms Fu's voice!
Texas Social Club community on SDC run by Mr. K and the Swinger Fairy

Swinger Apps! Chance Mingle for iPhone and SLS for Android

Please call us. Tweet us. Email us.

Episode song by Imagine Dragons "On Top of the World" on the album Night Visions